Family Advocacy Program (FAP)
The U.S. Army Family Advocacy Program (FAP) helps Soldiers and their Families recognize and prepare for the unique challenges of military lifestyles. Our services include seminars, workshops, counseling, and intervention to help strengthen the relationships of Army Families.
We are also dedicated to the prevention domestic abuse, child abuse, and neglect of Soldiers and their Families through offering education, prompt reporting, investigation, intervention, and treatment.
If you need help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at +1 (800)799-7233. You should also contact your installation’s Family Advocacy Program for more information.
The Family Advocacy Program is committed to strengthening the lives of Service Members and Families, and preventing and providing treatment for domestic violence and child abuse.
24/7 Safe Line: +1(253) 966-7233SAFE (for Domestic Violence Victim Advocacy)
- FAP Prevention & Treatment
Command and community education services
FAP Treatment/Behavioral Health
Treatment and case management are the responsibility of the military treatment facility and FAP (Treatment section)
Main location: 9905 Lincoln St., Madigan Annex, JBLM-Lewis Main
Phone: +1(253) 968-4159
- FAP Classes
- FAP Quarterly Flyer (all classes & events per quarter)
- Anger Control Training
- Crossroads of Divorce
- FAP Lifeskills: Anger Control Training (ACT): 16 hours. Anger and stress can be an incredibly damaging force, costing people their jobs, personal relationships, and even their lives when it gets out of hand. However, since everyone experiences anger and stress, it is important to have constructive approaches to manage it effectively. This class will help participants identify if they are angry or under stress. It will teach participants helpful ways of dealing with anger and stress and identify unhelpful ways of dealing with anger that can cause further stress. The class is broken down into 8 modules and you must be able to attend all 8 modules. Each module is two hours long equaling 16 total hours.
- The Men’s classes are held every month except July from 9 a.m.-11a.m. on Monday's and Wednesday's
- The Women’s classes are held every other month from 9 a.m.-11 a.m. on Tuesday's and Thursday's.
- FAP Lifeskills: Five Love Languages for Men: 2 hours. At the heart of every man is a desire to master what matters. Getting a compliment at work or on the court is nice, but nothing beats hearing your spouse say, "You make me feel loved." If you haven't heard that in a while or feel like you're not bringing your A-game into your relationship, this class is for you. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Lifeskills: Five Love Languages for Singles: 2 hours. Whether you want to be closer to your parents, have better relationships, or give dating another try, this class will give you the confidence you need to connect with others in a more meaningful way. This class will help you: understand yourself and others better, relate to others more confidently, grow closer to family and friends, discover the missing ingredient in past relationships, and date more successfully. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Lifeskills: Adult Coloring Group: 1.5 Hours. Coloring has been found to be an effective way to reduce and manage stress. Come and de-stress with the Family Advocacy Program during lunch time the first Tuesday of every month from 1130-1300 (no group in December and January's group will be on the second Tuesday) as we color away in a calm and relaxed setting. All supplies will be provided and you are welcome to bring your own lunch (fridge and microwave available).
- FAP Lifeskills: Dating Basics: 1 Hour. This class is intended to provide education for those singles who are navigating the complexities of the dating world. Dating Basics will focus on positive communication, healthy relationships dynamics, and identifying ones’ own relationship expectations. This class includes group discussion, activities, and videos for an interactive 1 hour session.
- FAP Couples: Scream-Free Marriage: 12 hours. This class is not about screaming or yelling. This class introduces new concepts about marriage, teaching couples how to embrace their separate selves as a profound vehicle for strengthening a marriage. This class is discussed during six sessions with each being 2 hours.
- FAP Couples: Five Love Languages for Couples: 2 hours. The Five Love Languages offers insight into the five ways each person expresses love emotionally. Whether it be words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or person touch, when we learn to speak our partner's language we are able to ensure they feel loved. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Couples: It Takes Two: 2 Hours. Each month Family Advocacy will be hosting a two hour workshop that will cover a variety of relationship and communication topics to help build stronger and healthier connections. Some of the topics that will be covered over the year includes: healthy communication, keys to relationship success, personality traits, ways to effectively use timeouts, anger/stress, fun & friendship in your relationships, commitment, expectations, problem solving, and planning for the future. This class is open anyone who is in a relationship, ever been in a relationship, or someday plans on being in a relationship! This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Couples: Conflict Management: 1 Hour. Research has shown that there are four patterns of communications that are particularly poisonous to relationships. This class helps people identify the communication Danger Signs and provides skills on how to avoid negative conflict and learn effective ways of communicating/problem-solving. This class is 1 session for 1 hour.
- FAP Couples: Relationship Reboot: 2 Hours. Stuck in a relationship rut and need a little “refresher?” Join us for a 1 hour class on rediscovering all the great things about your partner. This class will integrate video, activities, and discussion to help get your relationship back on track. Topics will include, but isn’t limited to, addressing communication concerns, the importance of dating, and healthy expectations. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Scream-Free Parenting Class: 10 hours. This class is not about screaming but more about the anxieties and stresses of parenting. This is a general parenting class that is not age specific. Scream Free Parenting introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. This class is discussed during five sessions with each being 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Five Love Languages for Children: 2 hours. This class is for parents of children 5-12 years old who want to learn ways to understand their children' Love Languages. Every child has a unique way for feeling loved. When you discover your child's love language and how to speak it; you can build a solid foundation for your child to trust you and flourish as they grow. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Empowering Stepfamilies: 12 hours. This class will provide parents the skills they need to build a successful stepfamily. Topics include: family histories/traditions/values, loss and grief, non-violent discipline techniques, communication and relationships, responsibility and cooperation, loyalty conflicts, power struggles, difficult topics such as drugs/violence/sex, and healthy boundaries for the whole family. This class is 6 sessions, 2 hours each.
- FAP Parenting: Infant Massage: 2 hours. Learn the art of infant massage from instructors trained to teach the Loving Touch curriculum. Improve sleep and appetite and learn techniques to sooth a colicky baby and increase brain development. This class encompasses 2 sessions, each session is 1 hour.
- FAP Parenting: 1-2-3 Magic: 8 hours. Effective Discipline for all children, toddlers through teens, 1-2-3 Magic is an evidence-based parenting technique created by Dr. Phelan. Parents will learn how to discipline without arguing, yelling, or spanking. 1-2-3 Magic gives parents specific and effective skills to address negative behaviors such as tantrums, aggression, disrespectful language and much more. Parents will also learn how to assist their children with starting a new behavior such as chores, manners, and respectful language. This class encompasses 4 sessions and each session is 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: 24/7 Dad: 4 hours. Being the best dad you can be is the most important kind of home improvement you can do for your family whether you’re a new dad, single dad or a seasoned veteran. This class focuses on how to increase your skills as a father. This class encompasses 2 sessions and each session is 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Baby Boot Camp: 3 Hours. This is a fun and interactive class for active duty personnel and their partners who are expecting or have a newborn infant. Baby Boot Camp covers everything a parent needs to know to take care of their newborn, as well as information on resources for the whole family including: 1) the role of a parent, 2) developmental stages of infants, 3) basic infant care to include feeding, 4) child safety, and 5) pre and postpartum emotions. This class is one session for 3 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Tools for Success: Mindfulness Parenting: 6 Hours. This parenting class is intended as an introduction to mindful parenting with the purpose of strengthening parenting skills and enhancing parent-child relationships. The day-to-day experiences and challenges of parenting serve as important opportunities for practicing mindfulness, a practice that has physical, psychological, and social benefits. This class is 4 sessions for 1.5 hours each.
- FAP Parenting: How To Motivate Your Teens: 10 Hours. This class is not about screaming but more about the anxieties and stresses of parenting tweens and teens with a focus on launching your adolescents into the world. Launching Hope introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. This class is discussed during five sessions, each session is 2 hours.
- FAP Parenting: Grow! Parenting for children ages 5 to 10: 10 Hours. Raising a young child is rewarding, but it also comes with challenges. As children grow and become more independent, they are exposed to external influences, like peers and media entertainment. The good news is that parents can remain a primary guiding force in helping their child mature into a responsible, caring, healthy, and competent adult. The Grow! parenting program is designed to help parents of 5 to 10 year olds learn positive parenting techniques, stress management strategies, and health promotion skills that can be used to help children be happy and healthy. This class is offered in an in-person, group-based format with five sessions.
Classes for teens
- FAP Teen Lifeskills: Anger Control Training (ACT) for Teens: 8 hours. One of the most difficult life skills teenagers need to learn is how to control their anger. This Teen Anger Class is designed to help teens engage in self-reflection, to examine their thoughts, and feelings that lead to angry emotions, and learn effective tools and techniques to manage anger. Successful completion of this course can help teens become more equipped to handle their emotions which can increase their success in school, friendships, and family relationships. The class is broken down into 4 modules, each module is two hours long equaling 8 total hours.
- FAP Teen Lifeskills: Five Love Languages for Teens: 2 hours. All of us want to be known and loved. That's universal. However, how we want to be loved is unique to each one of us. By learning 5 Love Languages now, overtime you'll have tighter bonds with your friends, better communication with your parents, closer relationships with your siblings, dating relationships with less drama and awkwardness, healthier marriage someday, and a clearer understanding of interpersonal dynamics and human motivation. This class is 1 session for 2 hours.
- FAP Teen Lifeskills: Healthy Relationships for Teens: 1 hour. Healthy relationships thrive on respect, kindness, and trust. Unhealthy ones revolve around an imbalance of power that’s maintained through the use of controlling behaviors, emotional abuse, or physical aggression. Sadly, 1 in 3 adolescents will be a victim of dating violence, and only 33% of teens will tell anyone about the abuse. This class will help your teens learn to recognize and protect themselves from unhealthy relationships and dating abuse. This class is 1 session for 1 hour.
- FAP Playgroup: Mom to Mom (and Dads too!) Play Group (6 weeks - 6 months): 1 Hour. Fridays 9:30a.m.-10:30 a.m., Raindrops & Rainbows (JBLM North). A space for moms and babies 6 weeks-6 months to connect and grow. Each weekly meeting includes a specific topic and time for free discussion. Please join us!
- FAP Playgroup: Toddler & Young Child Play Group (12-36 months): 1.5 Hours. Tuesdays 1:30p.m. -3 p.m., Escape Zone (McChord). This is a lovely laid back atmosphere for parents and toddlers to begin socializing with one another. Toddlers may benefit from socializing with other toddlers and learning new ways to communicate. Parents may benefit by receiving support from other parents about resources in the area, parenting tips, sleeping routines and much more.
- FAP Playgroup: Baby Play Group (0-12 months): 1 Hour. Thursdays 1:30 p.m.-2:30 p.m., Raindrops and Rainbows (Lewis North). This is a lovely laid back atmosphere for parents and infants to begin socializing with one another. Infants may benefit from socializing with other infants and learning new ways to communicate. Parents may benefit by receiving support from other parents about resources in the area, feeding tips, sleeping routines and much more.
Register for Classes
- Reporting Child Abuse & Domestic Violence
How to Report Child Abuse
How to Report Domestic Violence
- To make a restricted report* call the Victim Advocates at
- To make an unrestricted report or for immediate medical/police response call 911.
- For on-post non-emergency situations you can also call +1(253)967-7112 or +1(253)967-7113.
*Restricted report: If you are an adult victim of domestic abuse and want help but don’t want to involve command or law enforcement you can contact a victim advocate using the JBLM Safeline: +1 (253) 966-7233 (SAFE).
- To make a restricted report* call the Victim Advocates at
- New Parent Support Program (NPSP)
The New Parent Support Program (NPSP) promotes healthy Families through a variety of services including home visits, support groups, and parenting classes. We help Soldiers and Families learn to cope with stress, isolation, post-deployment reunions, and the everyday demands of parenthood. Army Families who are expecting a child or who have children up to age three can participate in all of our services confidentially and free of charge.
Each installation has developed unique New Parent Support Program services that include:
- Home visits: Scheduled at your convenience, home visits bring you education and reassurance right to your own home on many topics, including breastfeeding, sleeping, nutrition, potty training, age-appropriate discipline, developmental screenings, sibling rivalry, stress management, deployment issues, and time management. NPSP-Home Visitors are supportive and caring licensed clinical social workers (LCSWs) or registered nurses (RNs). They have extensive experience working with young children and are sensitive to your unique challenges as a military Family.
- Expectant Parent Workshop: Helps to provide valuable information about pregnancy and postpartum health, basic infant care, infant massage, parenting skills, safety, discipline, stress management, deployment issues, and community resources.
- Play groups: Scheduled regularly at installations, they help children learn through play in a supportive atmosphere that benefits parents as well. Activities include story time, crafts, and music.
- Military Homefront: A free weekly parenting email with support, tips and advice, updates about your baby’s developmental milestones, and other great information curated just for you.
Contact your installation Army Community Service (ACS) Family Advocacy Program for more information. You can also call Military OneSource for more information and referrals (CONUS: +1 (800)342-9647; OCONUS: 00-800-3429-6477; To call collect with operator assistance OCONUS: +1 (484)530-5908.
To request NPSP services call +1(253) 967-5901
- Victim Advocacy Program
The Victim Advocacy Program (VAP) provides emergency and follow-up support services to adult victims of domestic abuse. Advocacy services are available to Service members, their current or former spouses, an individual with whom the Service member shares a child, and significant others of Service members who live together. Our services are available twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.
Our trained professionals are here for crisis response, information on reporting options, medical treatment options, law enforcement’s response, emergency services, safety planning, obtaining military and civilian protective orders, and accompaniment to medical forensic exams and medical appointments, as well as accompaniment to court for orders of protection hearings and trials. Advocates work closely with their civilian counterparts and ensure a personal and smooth transition for victims who do not qualify for ongoing advocacy services within the military community.
If you need help or want more information, contact the Victim Advocacy Program Manager at your local Army Community Service Center.
The Army is fully committed to ensuring victims of domestic abuse are protected; treated with dignity and respect; and provided support, advocacy and care. The Army strongly supports effective command awareness and prevention programs, and holding offenders accountable.
There are two types of reporting options: Restricted Reporting and Unrestricted Reporting. Personnel should report all suspected cases of domestic abuse promptly, which quickly activates victim services and accountability actions. However, we understand things might not always work that way. Victims might need medical attention or victim services without command or a law enforcement response. Therefore, the Army has implemented a Restricted Reporting Option for victims to confidentially disclose allegations of abuse and receive needed medical treatment and services.
Allows someone who meets VAP criteria and who is experiencing violence in his/her relationship to confidentially disclose the abuse to a Victim Advocate, a Victim Advocate Supervisor, or a Healthcare Provider. When an individual chooses a restricted report, law enforcement is not involved and there is no investigation of the abuse. In addition, the Soldier’s Command is not notified of the abuse and is unable to offer assistance and protection.
The restricted reporting option allows an individual to receive medical treatment, advocacy services and clinical and pastoral counseling. This option allows one to receive needed services, control the release of his/her personal information, and time to consider his/her options.
Under this reporting option, the offender is not held accountable and the abuse may continue. If an assessment reveals a high risk for future injury, a restricted report may not be granted.
Victims of domestic abuse who want to pursue an official investigation of an incident should report the abuse to law enforcement, or the alleged offender’s Commander. The unrestricted reporting option provides a victim with the widest array of services available including but not limited to command involvement, law enforcement involvement, medical treatment, advocacy services, and counseling services.
Not all incidents of domestic abuse are the same, and each person who experiences domestic abuse handles the situation differently.
Commanders play an integral part in ensuring the safety, health, and well being of our Army Families. Commanders who learn of an incident of domestic abuse are required to notify law enforcement.
- The right to be treated with fairness and with respect for your dignity and privacy.
- The right to be reasonably protected from the accused offender.
- The right to be notified of court proceedings.
- The right to be present at all public court proceedings related to the offense, unless the court determines that your testimony would be materially affected if you, as the victim, heard other testimony at trial.
- The right to confer with the attorney for the government in the case; the right to available restitution; the right to information about the conviction, sentencing, imprisonment, and release of the offender.
A violent relationship puts you and your children at risk for injury and even death. Developing a safety plan tailored to meet the needs of your family will enable you get out of a potentially dangerous situation. If your children are old enough, mature enough, or even responsible enough to assist you during a violent or potentially violent episode of domestic abuse, you may consider including them in your plan to keep everyone safe. A good safety plan considers which steps to take if you choose to stay in the relationship or if you choose to leave.
Here are some tips during the explosive phase of domestic abuse:
- Move to a room with easy access to an exit. Don't go to the kitchen, bathroom or near possible weapons.
- Know the quickest route out of your home. Practice escaping that way.
- Know the quickest route out of your workplace. Practice escaping that way. Domestic violence does not just occur in your home.
- Pack a bag and have it ready. Keep it hidden but make it easy to grab quickly.
- Tell your neighbors about your abuse and ask them to call the police when they hear a disturbance.
- Have a code word to use with your kids, family and friends. They will know to call the police and get you help.
- Know where you are going to go, if you ever have to leave.
- Use your instincts.
- You have the right to protect yourself and your children.
Develop a Safety Plan
Military Protection Orders (MPO)
Unit Commanders may issue a Military Protective Order (MPO) to ensure the safety of service members, family members, and other individuals from the threat of domestic violence. An MPO is a written lawful order issued by a commander that orders a Soldier to avoid contact with his or her spouse or children. The commander should provide a written copy of the order within 24 hours of its issuance to the protected person, the Military Police and civilian law enforcement. An individual should report violations of the MPO to law enforcement.
Civilian Protection Orders (CPO)
A Civilian Order of Protection is an order signed by a Judge that directs an individual to stop abusing, stalking, harassing and/or committing acts of sexual violence against an individual. An individual may file a CPO against current or former spouse, someone that an individual shares a child in common, an individual with whom you have shared a residence with, someone related to you by blood or marriage or someone with whom you have dated or had intimate relations.
- United States Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women
- National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence
- Stalking Resource Center
- Statewide directory for laws, courts, emergency shelters, orders of protection
- Battered Women's Justice Project
- The Family Violence Prevention Fund
- Women's Justice Center– Also is Spanish
- Mind, Body, Spirit Empowered - Materials translated into many languages
- Marriage and Equality – Materials translated into many languages
Victim advocates are available 24 hours/7days a week to provide assistance to victims of domestic violence. Victim Advocates can offer restricted and unrestricted reporting options for domestic violence on a case by case basis.
Advocacy services include, but are not limited to safety planning, referrals to military and civilian resources, crisis intervention, and liaison between Commanders and victims. They are also available to provide guidance and assistance to Chain of Commands dealing with domestic violence incidents.
Walk in assistance welcome between 8:00-4:30 pm in:
- DPFR/AFCS Headquarters (2013A N. 3rd and Pendleton, 2nd Floor, JBLM-Lewis Main)
- Raptor Resilience Center (3204 2nd Div. Dr., JBLM-Lewis Main)
- Service Member & Family Assistance Center (SFAC, 9059 Gardner Lp., JBLM-Lewis-Main)
- DPFR/AFCS-McChord (100 Joe Jackson Blvd., JBLM-McChord Field)
For assistance related to Domestic Abuse please call the 24/7 Safe Line at (253) 966-SAFE (7233).
- Mandatory Unit Training & Command Team Briefings
- IAW AR 608-18 paragraph 3-2 all units are required to receive annual training on the dynamics of domestice violence and child abuse.
- Commanders and Senior Enlisted Advisors are required to receive a desk-side briefing within 90 days of taking command.
- This training must be conducted by a Family Advocacy Program Specialist.
- To schedule your unit training or briefing please contact +1(253)967-5901 or e-mail.
Hours of Operation
|Monday||7:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.|
|Tuesday||7:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.|
|Wednesday||7:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.|
|Thursday||7:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.|
|Friday||7:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.|